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Men?
I talk about guys a lot because I don’t understand them. This weekend I learned that another one of my friends stopped seeing (we’ll call him and her non-boyfriend, since I love that term) earlier in the week. She said the reason their relationship (which was about four months in) came to a halt was because he had to “find himself.” What is it with guys in their 20s finding themselves? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard that in the last month. What are these guys hoping to find alone? A picture perfect career by 28? That’s unlikely. Maybe it’s just the type of guys we pick. Most of my friends are what you might consider workaholics. We live by our e-mail, and will jump at any time to tackle a work project. Perhaps it’s that as career women, we look for men who are equally as dedicated to their job, and in turn, become attracted to only those guys who are captivated by their jobs and nothing else.
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By Angie
October 2, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this
I used to believe that all the good men are playing hide and don’t seek or have vacationed to one venue we women are unaware of at this time. I married really young the first time. We had a son together and life was getting to good part. You know, we were about to build a house, had most debt paid down then he took up interest in the piano…player that is! I managed to stay in the marriage for three years and all the time knew he was cheating. Hello, he was tone deaf and couldn’t carry a tune in a bucket if the thing had a lid! So I stuck it out and filed for divorce shortly before the then year mark. I took half and was financially stable. Nice job for a “dumb blonde”. I was single for a little more than a year and then found a tall, blonde hair blued eyed military man. He was sweet, sexy and a had a wild side. I fell for it…and got pregnant. Four months after our marriage he thought he had married a small town, sweet lil’ darlin of a woman. He didn’t know or failed to acknowlegde that I was about as mean as a disgruntled alligator. So after he decided to hit me, at seven months pregnant, I rocked his world. And he rocked mine. He had been seeing his ex-fiance. So, once again, filed for divorce from a cheating, lying, sorry excuse for a man. By this point, I can tell you how to win and win big at a divorce. I swore off men. I had had all I wanted and more than I could take. I decided that being alone was worth more than having a whole lot of someone that I can’t stand, don’t want or can’t get rid of. From this point on I knew I wouldn’t settle for anything less the the whole flipping fairytale…ring, dress, cake, house, etc. I deserved it!!! Then this past March I met him. I love everything from his cowboy hat down to his Tony Lamas! He is a beautiful person and loves me past the person I was and loves me for who I am. Ladies, keep looking. Good men really do exist.