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Female emotions
I think as women, the raw nature of our emotions tends to make us refrain from doing the things we ought to. I’ve had friends, some of whom have hurt me so deeply that just looking at them brought me to tears. And, too scared to hear them say what I dreaded the most, I simply cut off all communication, rather than asking them what the deal was. It’s horrible, I know. As women, is the thought of hearing our worst fears realized what keeps us from doing the things we should? Do our emotions always have control over what our brains tell us to do? For me, it seems a redundant case in point.
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By Chasaty
October 11, 2008 7:24 PM | Link to this
I don’t think its because you are a woman, its just your personality type. I know men that are like that. The ones who fear rejection or being inadequate. It has nothing to do with being a woman.
The first step in overcoming that fear is to become happy and appreciative of yourself. If you don’t think you are awesome, who else will? Many people of all ages feel this way (afraid of rejection or being inadequate).
When controlled it can be a healthy thing because it will keep you on your toes. If uncontrolled, you will be so afraid of everything that you destroy yourself.
By Anne
October 12, 2008 12:11 AM | Link to this
I, too, have been hurt by female friends. If this loss of contact didn’t bother them as, it’s time to break away and find friends interested in things that interest you. (Heard of the Internet? Chat rooms, Match.com?)That was not meant as a snide remark, but to point out you are not utilizing the tools you already have. Last, but not least, stock up on chocolate. It’s a great lure for former friends, and a wonderful consolation even if you have to eat it yourself! You have reached a point in life where you need to take one step back and realistically access your position. First, you are employed. That means someone other than you sees value/creativeness in you. It’s possible you have outgrown your friends. Different interests, change in martial status, change in job or promotion at work? Try as we might, sometimes jealously creeps into the picture. Finally, in my life,, (and yes, I know it’s stupid)but there is a chasm in the amount of money we spend on our wardrobes. Coach handbags, Jimmy Choo shoes, and Chanel suits. Other friends purchase the majority of their clothing at Good Will. Regardless of the outer trappings, all are still my friends.